Abby Rodman, LICSW is a psychotherapist in private practice in the Boston area. She has counseled hundreds of individuals and couples with relationship issues. Abby has graduate degrees from both Harvard and Boston College and her work has been featured in the Boston Globe Magazine. She is a contributing relationship expert for yourtango.com. Abby is absurdly proud of her three amazing, college-aged sons who grew up at warp speed. Her next book in the Little Books for Life’s Big Decisions series is about divorce and will be available in 2014.
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I've learned- from years of personal and professional experience - that problems in a marriage don't start when the rings are exchanged - they've likely been there, in one form or another, from the start of the relationship. With a nearly fifty percent divorce rate in the US, it's time for a proactive approach to happy marriage instead of a reactive approach - trying to fix what's broken in a marriage - when it may already be too late. I'm on a mission to get folks to really consider what they're getting into before they make the most important decision of their lives!
Book Genre:
Non-Fiction/Relationships
Publisher: Book Tango
Release Date: August 19,
2013
Book Description:
Ever
wonder why nearly fifty percent of women marry the wrong guy and then
divorce him? Or if your Mr. Right may be, well, your Mr. Maybe? A
quick, feisty read,Should
You Marry Him? A No-Nonsense, Therapist-Tested* Guide to Not Screwing
Up the Biggest Decision of Your Life,
gives you the skinny on the ten most common red flags women overlook
before tying the knot. Informed by my work with hundreds of married
and divorcing couples, Should
You Marry Him? packs
the perfectly blended punch of professional advice and
straightforward girl-talk.
Unlike
other self-help books of this genre, Should
You Marry Him? A No-Nonsense, Therapist-Tested* Guide to Not Screwing
Up the Biggest Decision of Your Life cuts
through the characteristic psychobabble and gives you what you really
need: practical advice you can act on. Few women have the time or
inclination to slog through 300 pages or 1001 reasons. Should
You Marry Him?is
written for every busy woman who needs answers now.
Using
real-life examples from my psychotherapy practice and personal
insights from my own experience, Should
You Marry Him?will
resonate with every woman who has ever wondered just what makes
successful marriages successful. Why do some women just seem to pick
the perfect guy? It’s not complicated, yet so many get it wrong!
Whether
you’re on the verge of marrying or if it’s just ultimately in
your life’s grand plan, Should
You Marry Him? will
change the way you look at choosing your forever mate. Love is grand
– and great sex is great – but they’re just not enough for the
long haul. Don’t screw up the biggest decision of your life. Read
Should
You Marry Him? now
or…forever hold your peace!
My Review:
Abby Rodman is my new hero!
What I loved about this book is that it is straight up, in your face, TRUTH! Ms. Rodman holds nothing back about love and if you are not sure if you should be marrying the person you love, then this book is for you.
Have you ever been truly in love? Do you even know what it is? While I was reading Should You Marry Him?, the entire time I put myself on the line, testing my feelings as I read to see if I married the right man. Guess what? I DID! Yay for me!
You know, nobody wants to divorce, and I swore I would never get married unless I knew for sure. Love is hard, being married is harder, but when you got it, you got it. Cliché, I know, but if you're not sure if your man is the right one for you, then you need to grab this book and dig deeper into your feelings to know for sure. Ms. Rodman gives you raw truth and great food for thought.
This book is very well written with examples and true life experiences that you may relate to. I highly recommend this book for anyone that isn't sure what love is or if you are marrying the right person.
Kudos Ms. Rodman!
Excerpt One:
I do.
Very few words, if any, have the power to change your life as
exponentially as those two.
Whether you’re already planning the wedding or just considering his
proposal, know that you are in the process of making the most
important decision of your life. Sound daunting? A little scary,
even? Good. That means you’re truly considering what it will mean
to be married to this man. You’re thinking about what’s at
stake in choosing him, forsaking all others, to be your companion,
mate and lover through your one, precious life.
You know those movies in which the hero wakes up one day and finds
he’s the only man left on Earth? Then, miraculously, he finds the
one woman left on the planet living in some bombed-out apartment
building? And, lucky for him, through all the dirt and torn clothing
he can see she’s the hottest chick ever? And initially they hate
each other but realize they really love each other and decide to
begin their task of rebuilding the human race?
Okay, maybe getting married isn’t that dramatic but it’s
not far from it. Either you choose the right partner to help you
successfully navigate this strange, new world called Marriage or you
choose the wrong one and begin your descent into unhappy-marriage
hell.
With your “I do”, you will mark the start of the rest of your
life. Your new husband will be the last man you’ll ever have a
first date with, the last man you ever french kiss, the last man
you’ll ever share a bed with. This man will be the father of your
children and that’s an irreversible choice. You’ll slog through
the everyday routine that is life and, if you’re lucky, that life
will also be peppered with joy and moments of passion that make you
both sigh and remember the good old days of coat closet sex.
You will know this man, if all goes well, better than you have ever
known another person. You will share his fears, his moments of glory
and his bathroom. You’ll also become expert at reading his moods,
accepting his limitations and soothing his demons. Yes, he has
demons. We all do. And if you haven’t seen your man’s yet, you
will. Make no mistake.
No matter how you slice it, marriage is a gamble. Statistics vary but
somewhere in the neighborhood of 40 to 50 percent of first marriages
end in divorce. Let’s put it this way: Nearly half of you reading
this book will get divorced. And if the numbers are that high for
people who make the difficult decision to split, how many couples
stay married and miserable? My clinical guesstimate is that you have
about a 25 percent chance of ending up in happy marriage. Sweating,
yet?
