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Friday, February 20, 2015

Romantic Recovery by Waterford Adams Book Tour & Giveaway



Author Bio:


As co-authors Waterford Adams, we are sisters with a British cultural heritage, who were born in Australia and spent our early years in rural and remote outback regions of Queensland. During our personal histories we have lived and worked in many and various situations, and have learned through adversity that pain is a brilliant teacher. Now in our mature years and with an honourable working relationship, we specialize in the promise of romantic recovery through an ongoing commitment to peacemaking. The collective outcome of this proposal is strengthened by our individual contributions.

WATERFORD: As a registered nurse in public hospitals, I received extensive experience in observing and treating trauma and recovery. Additional periods of real life research have encouraged me to strive to locate the definitive cause of less noticeable trauma. During this study, I have developed through a foundation of insight, the wisdom to appreciate that unidentified emotional pain, if not addressed, is re-created in the form of various discordant and abusive relationship behaviours. My contribution to this book has been refined and inspired over fifteen years.

ADAMS: Teaching for nineteen years in state high schools, with further professional involvement in human relationships education, school camps, term dances and the senior formal, I had the opportunity to study young adults and gain insights into their struggles. The additional years I worked as a telephone counsellor developed my natural intuition, giving me instinctive perception in personal pain and relationship issues. My contribution to this book is to offer a potential for its readers to secure greater awareness through self discovery.

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Book Genre: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Marriage & Long Term Relationships; Self-Help : General
Publisher: Bookpal
Release Date: 9/25/2012



Book Description: "Romantic Recovery" is a study of the modern relationships game, revealing the drama in the lives of the characters who perform within it. Showcasing eight well-known players: - Failed Family - Daddy's Girl - Cheating Partner - Posing Friend - Mummy's Boy - Sexual Predator - Bully - Fanatic this is a unique journey through the thrilling Contest of Recovery where females and males score points in deciding the fate of 64 relationship dilemmas. As a finale, there is an intimate eight-day diary with questions and answers designed to benefit singles or couples on a personal quest for romantic recovery.


Excerpt:


The failed family is the seat where generosity is dispensed in erratic doses from nestling status through to old age. It lacks reform. The family failure creates a group of infants who convince anyone who is afraid, that less is much more than they deserve.

Our well being within this family unit is on high alert. While we may pursue a commission of excellence and social standing, close scrutiny reveals we bear the scars of bewilderment, manipulation and heavily accented progaganda.

The parents in a failed family corrupt with sentiment. They seduce their children with a measure of affection and mix it with a dash of disguised michief. They live and breathe self-contempt because they themselves have been disabled by lies.

There is little to be gained from the failed family portrait as it stands. The foundations are crudely formed. The stays and props displayed are listing badly with the trauma of old fear and unexamined pain which holds each family member to ransom.

This kind of conditioning can imprint itself upon us from very early days. It is difficult to escape being caught in its enmeshment. While ever we remain a captive, we cannot find and protect our dream.








Buy a copy of Romantic Recovery and send receipt to vbtcafe@gmail.com and receive a free copy of The Recovering Romantic.



Friday, April 4, 2014

Book Review: Should You Marry Him? by Abby Rodman (Book Tour & Giveaway)




Abby Rodman, LICSW is a psychotherapist in private practice in the Boston area. She has counseled hundreds of individuals and couples with relationship issues. Abby has graduate degrees from both Harvard and Boston College and her work has been featured in the Boston Globe Magazine. She is a contributing relationship expert for yourtango.com. Abby is absurdly proud of her three amazing, college-aged sons who grew up at warp speed. Her next book in the Little Books for Life’s Big Decisions series is about divorce and will be available in 2014. 


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I've learned- from years of personal and professional experience - that problems in a marriage don't start when the rings are exchanged - they've likely been there, in one form or another, from the start of the relationship. With a nearly fifty percent divorce rate in the US, it's time for a proactive approach to happy marriage instead of a reactive approach - trying to fix what's broken in a marriage - when it may already be too late. I'm on a mission to get folks to really consider what they're getting into before they make the most important decision of their lives!



Book Genre: Non-Fiction/Relationships
Publisher: Book Tango
Release Date: August 19, 2013

Book Description:


Ever wonder why nearly fifty percent of women marry the wrong guy and then divorce him? Or if your Mr. Right may be, well, your Mr. Maybe? A quick, feisty read,Should You Marry Him? A No-Nonsense, Therapist-Tested* Guide to Not Screwing Up the Biggest Decision of Your Life, gives you the skinny on the ten most common red flags women overlook before tying the knot. Informed by my work with hundreds of married and divorcing couples, Should You Marry Him? packs the perfectly blended punch of professional advice and straightforward girl-talk.

Unlike other self-help books of this genre, Should You Marry Him? A No-Nonsense, Therapist-Tested* Guide to Not Screwing Up the Biggest Decision of Your Life cuts through the characteristic psychobabble and gives you what you really need: practical advice you can act on. Few women have the time or inclination to slog through 300 pages or 1001 reasons. Should You Marry Him?is written for every busy woman who needs answers now.

Using real-life examples from my psychotherapy practice and personal insights from my own experience, Should You Marry Him?will resonate with every woman who has ever wondered just what makes successful marriages successful. Why do some women just seem to pick the perfect guy? It’s not complicated, yet so many get it wrong!
Whether you’re on the verge of marrying or if it’s just ultimately in your life’s grand plan, Should You Marry Him? will change the way you look at choosing your forever mate. Love is grand – and great sex is great – but they’re just not enough for the long haul. Don’t screw up the biggest decision of your life. Read Should You Marry Him? now or…forever hold your peace!


My Review:

Abby Rodman is my new hero!

What I loved about this book is that it is straight up, in your face, TRUTH! Ms. Rodman holds nothing back about love and if you are not sure if you should be marrying the person you love, then this book is for you. 

Have you ever been truly in love? Do you even know what it is? While I was reading Should You Marry Him?, the entire time I put myself on the line, testing my feelings as I read to see if I married the right man. Guess what? I DID! Yay for me!

You know, nobody wants to divorce, and I swore I would never get married unless I knew for sure. Love is hard, being married is harder, but when you got it, you got it. Cliché, I know, but if you're not sure if your man is the right one for you, then you need to grab this book and dig deeper into your feelings to know for sure. Ms. Rodman gives you raw truth and great food for thought.

This book is very well written with examples and true life experiences that you may relate to. I highly recommend this book for anyone that isn't sure what love is or if you are marrying the right person.

Kudos Ms. Rodman!




Excerpt One:

I do.
Very few words, if any, have the power to change your life as exponentially as those two.
Whether you’re already planning the wedding or just considering his proposal, know that you are in the process of making the most important decision of your life. Sound daunting? A little scary, even? Good. That means you’re truly considering what it will mean to be married to this man. You’re thinking about what’s at stake in choosing him, forsaking all others, to be your companion, mate and lover through your one, precious life.
You know those movies in which the hero wakes up one day and finds he’s the only man left on Earth? Then, miraculously, he finds the one woman left on the planet living in some bombed-out apartment building? And, lucky for him, through all the dirt and torn clothing he can see she’s the hottest chick ever? And initially they hate each other but realize they really love each other and decide to begin their task of rebuilding the human race?
Okay, maybe getting married isn’t that dramatic but it’s not far from it. Either you choose the right partner to help you successfully navigate this strange, new world called Marriage or you choose the wrong one and begin your descent into unhappy-marriage hell.
With your “I do”, you will mark the start of the rest of your life. Your new husband will be the last man you’ll ever have a first date with, the last man you ever french kiss, the last man you’ll ever share a bed with. This man will be the father of your children and that’s an irreversible choice. You’ll slog through the everyday routine that is life and, if you’re lucky, that life will also be peppered with joy and moments of passion that make you both sigh and remember the good old days of coat closet sex.
You will know this man, if all goes well, better than you have ever known another person. You will share his fears, his moments of glory and his bathroom. You’ll also become expert at reading his moods, accepting his limitations and soothing his demons. Yes, he has demons. We all do. And if you haven’t seen your man’s yet, you will. Make no mistake.
 No matter how you slice it, marriage is a gamble. Statistics vary but somewhere in the neighborhood of 40 to 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce. Let’s put it this way: Nearly half of you reading this book will get divorced. And if the numbers are that high for people who make the difficult decision to split, how many couples stay married and miserable? My clinical guesstimate is that you have about a 25 percent chance of ending up in happy marriage. Sweating, yet?  







Thursday, May 2, 2013

First Year Is The Hardest!



Remember when we were kids, playing with our Barbie marrying her off to Ken, watching them drive away in the horse carriage? Maybe you had the pink convertible. Maybe they eloped or married in front of all their Barbie friends.

Either way, it's every girls childhood fantasy! Isn't it?

I didn't think much about marriage when I was a kid. Probably because my Mom was a single mother,  and swore off marriage for the rest of her life! That was until it caught her by surprise and now she's been married 20+ years or so. LOL.

It wasn't a sin in my house, it's just my father put my mother through the ringer and she learned her lesson about men. Times had changed from years ago when men took care of their family and they never divorced.

I remember laughing when my best friend, who SWORE she would never get married...got married. She's been married for over 15 years now.

Not me! I know how things go. Nothing is forever, people just don't take their vows seriously anymore. Divorce is way too easy!

Now...I'm married!


I know my best friend laughed at me too! I deserved it, right? Right!

BUT...

Whoever said marriage was easy...Boy were they wrong!


Do you know how hard it is to remember this? To remember why it was we got married in the first place?

Under new management is right! 


When you go from a single mom, making sure to include your children in all the decision making that affects us as a whole, to now having another head unit to consider, it is an adjustment!

Now I don't have to depend on my kids so much. Yes...their opinion still counts, but now it's not me alone to make the final decisions.

We are still learning to live with each other!



Yes we have disagreements. We see things differently, and I'm not sure we will ever see things exactly the same. I think that comes from me being so alone and independent before we got married.

Old habits die hard!


I know that better than anyone. Sometimes it's so hard to remember that it's okay to disagree. It's okay to have an argument.

It's okay to just love one another.

What was your first year of marriage like? Did you have the same struggles? How did you get through it? 

What advice can you give me?

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